S08E07 - Muhd Feroz bin Haron & Salmah Bte Johari & Brenda Ng - Staying Through The Hard Parts

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What does it take to stay together when leaving would be easier, safer, and far less painful?In this episode of Clean Your Toilet Podcast, Feroz Bin Haron (Certified Peer Support Specialist & Recovery Coach) and Salmah Binte Johari (WISDOM Head & Lead Volunteer) open up to Brenda Ng, Chief Fun(d) Officer, The Facilitators Project & Forest School coach, about addiction, incarceration, betrayal, forgiveness, and the quiet cost of loving someone through their darkest seasons.Married for over 30 years, Feroz and Salmah’s relationship has weathered cycles of drug addiction, repeated imprisonment, financial instability, and a betrayal that nearly ended everything. Much of this pain was never spoken about openly; not to family, not to friends, sometimes not even to each other.Feroz reflects on spending most of his children’s formative years behind bars, the shame of wasted time, and the slow, painful realisation that change only begins when denial ends. He speaks honestly about ego, manipulation, relapse, and the moment he finally decided to “walk the talk”.Salmah shares the invisible side of the story. The loneliness of raising children alone, juggling work and caregiving, absorbing judgment from family, and carrying heartbreak in silence. She speaks candidly about choosing her husband when others told her to walk away, the emotional toll of repeated forgiveness, and the line of divorce that was almost impossible to cross.This is not a story of instant redemption or perfect healing.We unpack the layers one at a time.Together, Feroz, Salmah, and Brenda explore the realities that rarely get voiced:✨ The unseen labour of partners who stay✨ Why addiction affects the entire family not just the individual✨ The difference between forgiveness and forgetting✨ Why voicing out pain can be the beginning of reconciliationThis episode reminds us that some of the most painful stories are hidden inside long marriages, quiet homes, and people who appear “strong enough to cope.”If you’ve ever stayed silent to protect someone you loveIf