S10E03 The Hardest Part Wasn't Having A Child. It Was Becoming Ready. | Ching & Cally, Ming Kwang

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People think the hardest part of becoming queer parents is having a child.It isn't.The hardest part is everything that comes before.The emotional work, the difficult conversations, the uncertainty.The systems that weren't designed for you.And asking yourselves one question over and over again:"Are we truly ready to bring a child into this world?"In Episode 3 of Beyond Pride: The Darkness We Battle, Ching Chia and Cally Chia —lesbian mums, community builders, and advocates for rainbow families join Hun Ming Kwang, LGBTQ+ Ally, award winning Master Coach, filmmaker, and InnerWork, Diversity, Inclusion, Deep Democracy & Process Work Facilitator, for a deeply moving conversation about building a queer family in Singapore.What unfolds is far more than a conversation about parenthood.It's about what happens when love alone isn't enough.We are not taught to be parents, let us be real here. We learnt either what to be or not to be from watching our parents fumbling as we were growing up and that shaped our way of becoming one. The reality is becoming parents requires years of emotional preparation, overseas fertility treatment, navigating healthcare and legal systems, financial sacrifice, and the courage to heal the parts of yourself you don't want your children to inherit.Together, they explore questions that every parent, present and future, can relate to:* What does it really mean to be ready to become a parent?* How do we stop passing intergenerational trauma to our children?* Why is emotional readiness just as important as financial readiness?* What happens when the systems around you weren't designed for your family?* Can chosen family become as powerful as the family we were born into?* What kind of world are we creating for the next generation?* Let us redefine parenthood and what family is, outside of the social constructs.Drawing from decades of work in trauma-informed coaching, innerwork, conflict facilitation, group therapy, family and intergenerational systems, diversity, inclusion and deep democracy, Ming e