Why Do We Keep Repeating the Same Mistakes? | Kati Morton - EP 781

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In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with licensed therapist, bestselling author, and mental health educator Kati Morton to explore why so many of us continue repeating behaviors we know no longer serve us—from perfectionism and overworking to people-pleasing, burnout, and self-abandonment.Drawing from her new book, Why Do I Keep Doing This?, Kati explains how the habits that keep us stuck often began as protective adaptations developed in childhood. Together, John and Kati unpack how our early experiences shape the "blueprints" we carry into adulthood, influencing our relationships, careers, self-worth, and sense of identity.Their conversation explores why achievement can become a substitute for belonging, how fear quietly drives many of our decisions, and why lasting change begins not with self-judgment but with curiosity. Along the way, they discuss anti-mattering, burnout, fawning, autonomy, self-discrepancy, and the power of micro-choices to reshape our lives.In this episode, you'll learn:Why perfectionism, overworking, and burnout are often fear-based protective behaviorsHow childhood experiences create the relationship blueprints that shape adult lifeThe hidden connection between people-pleasing, fawning, and self-abandonmentWhy so many high achievers struggle with feeling unseen despite their successHow anti-mattering contributes to loneliness, disengagement, depression, and burnoutThe difference between living intentionally and living on autopilotWhy small, consistent micro-choices often create more lasting change than dramatic life overhaulsHow journaling and self-reflection help uncover the beliefs driving repeated patternsPractical ways to reconnect with yourself and build a life that aligns with your valuesThis conversation offers a compassionate roadmap for understanding the habits that once protected us, while learning how to move forward with greater self-awareness, authenticity, and intention.Passion Struck is the #1 Health and Wellness Podcast and personal growth podcast de