I Lost Myself Trying To Be Chosen Then Everything Changed | For Mannerless Women

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What happens when you build your identity around being chosen and still feel unseen? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle sits down with Sarah Mukabana (Plus Wanga Princess) for a bold, honest, and deeply personal conversation about confidence, shame, and coming home to yourself. From navigating early curiosity about her body, to unlearning religious guilt, to losing herself in a relationship where she constantly sought validation… Sarah opens up about the turning points that forced her to choose herself. This episode explores: - The pressure women feel to perform for love and validation - How shame around the body is learned and how to unlearn it - The “pick-me” phase many women don’t realize they’re in - Rebuilding confidence from within (not from attention) - Why self-approval is the most powerful thing you can cultivate - Practical rituals that help you actually like yourself If you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink, perform, or change yourself to be loved, this episode will hit home. Watch till the end for one of the most freeing reminders: 👉 You owe nobody anything but your authentic self. Connect with Sarah here: https://www.instagram.com/pluswangaprincess/ https://www.instagram.com/positivecircles.ke/ https://www.instagram.com/diamondgirlaccessorieske/ Some of Sarah's fave resources: Books: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga The Sex Lives of African Women by Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/adventuresfrom/ 🔗 STAY CONNECTED WITH LEGALLY CLUELESS AFRICA Newsletter: www.legallycluelessafrica.com/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/legallycluelessafrica/ TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@legallycluelessafrica YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/LegallyCluelessYoutube Share your story: forms.gle/kMn7Wae5N563JFGQ8 Subscribe for more conversations that help you unlearn, heal, and reclaim yourself. #ForMannerlessWomen #LegallyCluelessAfrica #AfricanWomen