#008 - You aren't actually angry at your parents...

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If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!This is a solo episode. No guest. Just me, a microphone, and one of the most important conversations of our time.Your parents hurt you. That is real. That pain is valid. And this episode is not here to dismiss it. But it is here to ask you a harder question. At what point does the blame that once protected you become the very thing that is keeping you from the life you say you want?I speak from personal experience in this one. A mother with heavily narcissistic tendencies. A father who gaslights and evades. A childhood that left me confused, wounded, and looking for answers. And a long, nonlinear journey from denial to villainization to responsibility to something that finally felt like freedom.This episode covers:- Why most people are more committed to proving they were hurt than actually becoming free- The four stages of processing your relationship with your parents- Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting activated- The prison of hope and the grief of a relationship that will never become what you secretly wish it might- Why unresolved resentment is almost always unresolved self abandonment- The difference between fitting in and truly belonging- The question that reframes your entire perspective on your parents- How to truly move beyond your parents psychological gripThis one will meet you wherever you are with your parents. And it will ask you to go one step further.Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/CHAPTERS03:00 to 06:30 It is easier to blame your parents than heal. Here is why that keeps you stuck.06:30 to 12:00 You are not actually angry at them. You are angry at this.12:00 to 18:00 The four stages Billy walked through to understand his parents18:00 to 22:00 Why you keep forgiving them but still keep getting hurt22:00 to 27:45 The prison of hope and the vision of the relationship that will never exist27:45 to 30:24 Stop asking why weren't you perfect. Ask