Triggers, Shame, and Control: The Real Reason Conflict Feels So Hard

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Today we’re diving deep into the pain and peace cycle with Terry and Sharon as they unpack why our coping reactions matter in dating, how to take ownership of your triggers, and how true intimacy starts with regulating yourself—not finding someone to fix you! #heartofdating #paincycle #conflict ---------- TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 "Transforming Pain in Relationships" 08:43 "The Pain Cycle and Triggers" 13:56 Shame, Control, and Perfectionism 17:43 "Predictable Reactions in Conflict" 25:20 Self-Awareness in Relationships 28:25 Conflict Requires Personal Responsibility 35:02 "Marriage Mindset: Co vs Self-Regulation" 38:36 True Intimacy Explained Succinctly 48:08 "From Old Self to New" 50:03 "Peace Cycle for Transformation" 59:17 Pain vs. Peace Cycle Scenarios 01:05:50 "Conflict Resolution in Relationships" 01:09:31 "Breaking the Cycle of Conflict" The Find Your Person Challenge is BACK and FREE! Join us Nov 2-5th! https://www.heartofdating.com/challenge Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Interested in advertising on this sh