How to Rewire Your Attachment Style | Adam Lane Smith - EP 782

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In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with attachment expert, former licensed marriage and family therapist, and relationship coach Adam Lane Smith to explore why so many people struggle with relationships—not because they're broken, but because they're living out unconscious attachment patterns formed in childhood.Drawing from more than two decades of research into attachment science, neurobiology, and human behavior, Adam explains how insecure attachment shapes everything from our romantic relationships and family dynamics to leadership, workplace culture, anxiety, burnout, and even our physical health. Together, John and Adam examine why relationship chaos isn't random, how early family systems program our nervous system for survival instead of connection, and why so many high achievers unknowingly sacrifice belonging in pursuit of performance.Their conversation explores the biology of attachment, the role of oxytocin, cortisol, serotonin, and dopamine in shaping behavior, why modern work environments often reinforce insecure attachment, and how secure relationships become the foundation for resilience, purpose, and flourishing. Adam also introduces practical frameworks for regulating the nervous system, rebuilding trust, creating healthier relationships, and breaking generational cycles that keep families stuck.In this episode, you'll learn:Why attachment styles are formed in childhood—and continue shaping adult relationshipsHow anxious and avoidant attachment quietly influence leadership, work, and family lifeThe biological connection between loneliness, anxiety, depression, and human connectionWhy so many high achievers succeed professionally while struggling emotionallyHow insecure attachment contributes to burnout, workaholism, and relationship breakdownThe hidden reason Gen Z is delaying marriage, relationships, and family formationAdam's framework: Ownership + Skills + New Experiences = Lasting ChangePractical techniques to regulate your nervous system before trying to change your b