Don't call me resilient. Don't Let the Smile Fool You EP17

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Download our Resilience Reality Check Diagnostic Tool: https://smile-collective.kit.com/1e4240019dSo let’s talk about resilience. We all love stories of grit, strength, and coming through tough times with a smile, but here’s the truth I wish someone had told me years ago: not all resilience is good resilience. In this episode of Don’t Let the Smile Fool You, I share the real story behind what happened when my boss praised my “resilience”—and how I realized that surviving something that should have broken me wasn’t a reason to celebrate.Have you ever wondered when resilience turns from healthy strength to unhealthy survival? I break down the difference between genuine resilience and performative resilience, and how easy it is for workplaces to slip into cultures that glorify exhaustion instead of genuine excellence.I talk about my own experience working in a high-pressure environment, suffering silently, and almost breaking under relentless stress—all while being praised for showing up and “enduring.” If you’ve ever felt like you’re applauded more for surviving pain than for actual performance, this episode is for you.This video is all about the real cost of bad resilience: how pretending everything is normal, not setting boundaries, and rewarding suffering leads to burnt out teams and organizations that lose their best people. I explain how leaders unintentionally build cultures where exhaustion equals excellence, and why it’s so important to recognize the signs of toxic resilience—like employees proudly going years without vacation or working tirelessly on weekends.You'll hear tips on how to identify unhealthy patterns, how managers and leaders can set a better tone, and what tools every employee should use to protect their well-being. I also share why rest is not weakness and how building personal infrastructure—like boundaries and support systems—can help everyone thrive rather than just survive.If you’re ready to rethink what resilience means in the workplace and in your own life, this conversation will give